Family Issues

[faya27]

My parents and I don't get along. I have a learning disability that causes me not to do well in school or make dumb choices in life. Because of this, my parents yell at me, say how I'm never going to get a job, and how the only jobs I'm qualified are prostitution and pushing carts at Dominic's. One time, I went on a class trip. My teacher gave us "free time" to hang around a city we were visiting in England. Because I misheard the time, I thought I was supposed to meet my group in two hours; not fifteen minutes. I didn't realize it until my teachers found me and said they've been looking for me and called my mom. I apologized to them over and over. While they forgave me, my mom didn't. I told her that I didn't mean to but she yelled at me and made me feel like I'm the worst person on earth. Three weeks have passed since the incident. While my teachers and I have gotten over it, my mom brought it up and yelled more shit at me. I never intended this to happen! I don't know what to do because normally I don't misheard time meetings at school trips and I was always on time for classes. What should I do? Maybe it would be better if I go and live by myself in apartment. No matter how sorry I am about any mistake I made, my parents never forgave me and never will. We can't get along anymore and our relationship is broken forever.

[WickedElphie]

Sweetie I'm sorry things are strained with your family. If you're close with your teachers or other adults in your life I suggest confiding in them and trying to figure out what's best for you with help and seeing where other places are that you can get support.

Here's a couple websites you might want to visit.

www.ncld.org/

www.ldanatl.org/

I wish you the best of luck!

[faya27]

Thank you, WickedElphie. I will check out these websites.

[Coral]

I have no advice to offer, either.

But you ARE qualified to have any job you want, if you work at it. That's a lie that you're not.

[DanTheMan]

I'm sorry to hear that this is happening to you. I'm going through a family crisis as well at the moment, so I know how you feel, somewhat. However, just remember, stay strong, be confident, and life will turn out better.

[faya27]

Well, my family has no consideration for my feelings. They don't love me. Sometimes I wish I could get a divorce from them!

[fridamoonbeam]

I'm so sorry to hear this, Dear. May I ask how old you are? Also I really hope the websites Jess pulled up for you have helped. If they are in fact making you feel this bad then I think moving out would be the best option. Do you have other relatives or perhaps grandparents (depending on your age and financial situation)

I don't believe things are broken forever, I just think things can be SUPER hard to fix but in the mean time you shouldn't have to suffer for it. Your parents by my guess have other issues they need to straighten out with themselves, but again, you should not be the one to pay for it *hugs*

[faya27]

I am 22 years old and I'm still in college. I have to go back there for one more semester. I do have some relatives but only a few live close by.

For years, my parents and I have been trying to eliminate my learning disability so I could live a normal life. Even though, I've been getting better, my disability interferes my life (such as the incident where I got lost in England). My parents don't know how to help me so whenever I do something stupid (like pulling doors that said, "push",) they yell. They think yelling is the only way to make me learn from my mistakes; but it doesn't. It makes me want to run away from them!

Everything's peaceful here now since my mom went out of town, but I'm anxious that my disability would interfere with my life again and make everything worse again. I'm looking for ideas that will help me get around my disability while at the same time, still living in a normal life.

The websites seemed informational but I don't know if they would help me since I am over 18.

[WickedElphie]

Yes Faryl you can get help if you are over eighteen. And your school should have an office that deals with issues for students with disabilities as well, called something like "Disability Support Services." You are probably already getting accommodations in your classes through them. I think your best bet is to try and get an appointment with someone in that office when school starts and they may be able to tell you where you can get further help if you need it.

The first website I linked you also has a resource locator here- www.ncld.org/resource-locator

The second site has a page where you can become a member and get access to lots of programs and services.

ldaamerica.ixwebhosting.com/become/membership/Step1.cfm

And here's a page where you can select your state and location and see what national and regional offices are close to you. www.ldaamerica.org/state_chapters/index.asp

Good luck!